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Is Ricky Really a Sex Offender?

California’s registry for life may soon include promiscuous kids

By Hanna Ingber Win

When Ricky was 16, he went to a teen club and met a girl named Amanda, who said she was the same age. They hit it off and were eventually having sex. At the time Ricky thought it was a pretty normal high school romance.

Two years later, Ricky is a registered sex offender, and his life is destroyed.

Amanda turned out to be 13. Ricky was arrested, tried as an adult, and pleaded guilty to the charge of lascivious acts with a child, which is a class D felony in Iowa. It is not disputed that the sex was consensual, but intercourse with a 13-year-old is illegal in Iowa.

Ricky was sentenced to two years probation and 10 years on the Iowa online sex offender registry. Ricky and his family have since moved to Oklahoma, where he will remain on the state’s public registry for life.

Being labeled a sex offender has completely changed Ricky’s life, leading him to be kicked out of high school, thrown out of parks, taunted by neighbors, harassed by strangers, and unable to live within 2,000 feet of a school, day-care center or park. He is prohibited from going to the movies or mall with friends because it would require crossing state borders, which he cannot do without permission from his probation officer. One of Ricky’s neighbors called the cops on him, yelled and cursed at him, and videotaped him every time he stepped outside, Ricky said.

“It affects you in every way,” he said. “You’re scared to go out places. You’re on the Internet, so everybody sees your picture.”

His mother, Mary, said the entire family has felt the ramifications of Ricky being labeled a sex offender. His younger brother has been ridiculed at school and cannot have friends over to the house; his stepfather has been harassed; the parents’ marriage has been under tremendous pressure; and strangers used to show up at their door to badger the family. One neighbor came to the house and told Mary he wasn’t going to leave them alone until they took their “child rapist” away, so they moved, she said.

California is currently deciding if it will comply with a federal sex offender act that would put adolescent sex offenders as young as 14 on a national public registry, like the one Ricky is on in Oklahoma. Supporters say the act would improve public safety, but critics argue it would stigmatize thousands of teenagers. The law, called the Adam Walsh Child Protection and Safety Act of 2006, would require states to submit information on youth deemed delinquent in juvenile court of aggravated sexual abuse to the registry.

Juveniles affected by the act would range from those who used force or drugs to rape another person, to those who have had any sexual contact with a child under the age of 12. If a 14-year-old touches an 11-year-old’s penis, the 14-year-old would be eligible for the public registry.

Human rights advocates and even some prominent sex crime prevention groups warn this is one more act in a long list of sex-offender laws across the country that appeals to voters but is ineffective and counterproductive. They argue that almost all sex offender laws in the United States fail to solve the problem of sex crimes because they drive people underground, block paths to treatment and focus on a high-profile case, like that of 6-year-old Adam Walsh, who was abducted from a Florida department store and killed in 1981, and miss the fuller picture of sexual violence.

A few heinous, high-profile sex crimes capture the media’s attention, and the result is more Draconian sex-offender laws, such as Megan’s Law and Jessica’s Law, said Sarah Tofte of Human Rights Watch, which recently released a report on sex-offender laws called “No Easy Answers: Sex Offender Laws in the U.S.”

“We have created these laws and we apply them to anyone convicted of a sex crime regardless of their risk to the community,” Tofte said.

Megan’s Law requires public registration for adult sex offenders. If Jessica’s Law,

approved by voters in 2006, overcomes challenges in court, it would prohibit adult registered sex offenders from living 2,000 feet within a school or park and require those paroled from prison to wear lifetime GPS monitors. Unlike the Adam Walsh Act, Megan’s Law and Jessica’s Law generally do not affect registered juveniles, according to California Deputy Attorney General Janet Neeley.

While the media focuses on the stories of the child being raped and killed by a stranger, the Human Rights Watch report states that 80-90 percent of the offenses against children are committed by someone the victim knows.

If California complies with the Adam Walsh Act, the law would be retroactive, and the offenders would be listed on the registry for life. They would be classified as Tier III offenders and forced to register with law enforcement authorities every three months, or risk being charged with a felony and going to prison for at least one year.

The act, sponsored by Wisconsin Republican Congressman F. James Sensenbrenner, Jr. and 37 co-sponsors – including former Florida representative Mark Foley – was signed into law by President Bush on July 27, 2006, and gives states three years to comply or risk losing 10 percent of federal Byrne money, which are law enforcement grants worth $5 million in California. The Department of Justice is formulating the final guidelines.

Congressional co-sponsors of the law and crime-victim advocates have hailed the bill as an opportunity to improve community safety by increasing penalties for sex crimes, better tracking of sex offenders, and making it harder for predators to reach children on the Internet.

“The Adam Walsh Act intends to register convicted sexual offenders, 14 and older, who have committed the most violent sexual abuses,” said California Congressman Ken Calvert, a Republican from Riverside, in an e-mail. “If a juvenile has committed such a crime, the safety of our community and children supersedes the rights of the juvenile who, at the age of 14, understands the difference between right and wrong.”

A father pleas for

harsh penalties

Child-protection advocates argue that it is more important to hold juvenile sex offenders responsible for their actions than to worry about them being stigmatized by the registry or punished too harshly.

“We have to put the safety of our kids before the civil rights of someone who’s already proven they will hurt a kid,” said Mark Zyla, who became an activist for tougher sex offender laws after his two daughters were sexually assaulted in separate instances. “Being on the registry doesn’t keep people from rehabilitating; it doesn’t keep them from getting a job. It may be more difficult, but that’s part of the consequence of hurting a young child.”

Zyla’s daughter Amie was violently sexually assaulted by a 14-year-old, Joshua Wade, when she was eight. Wade was a family friend and attacked Amie, who is now 20, during a sleepover party at her house, Mark Zyla said. Wade was tried as a juvenile and sent to a juvenile detention center. But because his record was sealed, he was able to later get a job at a summer camp, where he went on to assault more young girls. He has since been sentenced to 25 years in prison.

The Zylas helped pass a law in their home state of Wisconsin to enable law enforcement officials to release information on juvenile sex offenders if they pose a threat to society. They then lobbied Congress to pass the federal Adam Walsh Act. If states comply with the Adam Walsh Act, Mark Zyla said, local law-enforcement agencies would know about juvenile sex offenders like Wade and be able to inform schools and places of employment.

Los Angeles Police Department detectives said registries significantly help them track down sex offenders. If they have an unsolved sex crime, they can take the description of the suspect, plug it into the database and look for a match, said Detective Diane Webb, a supervisor of LAPD’s sex-offender registration and tracking program.

The DNA and registration databases enable detectives to clear old cases and find patterns of crime, said Detective Jesse Alvarado of LAPD’s rape special section.

The registries also help inform the public, Webb said.

“Not only does registration give law enforcement a first place to look, it also provides information to the public,” she said. She added that people should be allowed to know if sex offenders live in their community so they can, at the very least, decide if they want to date them or have them baby-sit their children.

The detectives disagree on whether the registry should include juveniles, who commit 17 percent of all sex offenses and about a third of all sex offenses against children, according to the National Center on Sexual Behavior of Youth. Alvarado said he thinks it would be helpful to have a database like the Adam Walsh one for juvenile offenders. “Giving us an ability to look for somebody would always be a good thing,” Alvarado said.

Webb said she agreed with juvenile justice experts that juveniles should be treated differently from adults.

One of the reasons the law came into effect was because of the more than 100,000 missing or non-compliant sex offenders. They are part of the 603,000 registered sex offenders nationwide, according to the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children.

“When they’re on the run and they’re not compliant, they become more dangerous,” Mark Zyla said. “They’re not getting their treatment and they’re free to do whatever they want.”

Supporters also said juveniles would not be stigmatized for life because a section of the law stipulates that youth deemed delinquent in juvenile court can get off the registry after 25 years if they are not convicted of another sex crime and have successfully completed a sex offender treatment program.

However, juvenile justice advocates, public defenders and prominent sex crime prevention groups have

criticized the law, arguing that it would make it harder for youth to reintegrate into society, further break from the tradition of treating children differently from adults, be ineffective, and cost the state millions.

“Imagine writing down the worst thing you ever did when you were a teenager, or an adult, and being forced to put that on a placard on your forehead. This is, in effect, what registration does to these youth,” L.A. County Deputy Public Defender Maureen Pacheco wrote in an e-mail.

“They must disclose these offenses when they apply for school, when they apply for jobs, if they want to get licensed or bonded,” she wrote. “In other words, in all the ways a youth might seek to become rehabilitated, we shut the door.”

The case for leniency

Juvenile justice advocates said they fear the Adam Walsh Act would make it harder to rehabilitate young sex offenders because it would ostracize them from society. There is no direct research showing the psycho-social effects of registering on youth, say experts.

“But common sense would tell you that having your name, picture, and home address on the Internet as a sex offender at age 8, 12, or even 14 could be devastating in terms of peer relationships, community [relations], ability to stay in school, and involvement in church activities,” said Dr. Barbara Bonner, an expert on sex offenses and co-director of the Adolescent Sex Offender Treatment Program at the University of Oklahoma Health Sciences Center.

The law is counterproductive because young people are more likely to be rehabilitated and successful in the future if they get involved with social activities like sports, bands, choir, or a job, she said.

Juvenile justice advocates also criticize the law for treating and punishing youth as adults rather than focusing on rehabilitation. The basic concept of the juvenile justice system is to treat young people differently from adult offenders because they are considered less responsible for their actions and more receptive to rehabilitation and treatment.

Almost every state ensures that if a child is adjudicated or deemed delinquent – juvenile court does not convict youth – he or she does not have to submit information to a public registry, according to Tara Andrews of the Coalition for Juvenile Justice, a national nonprofit comprised of governor-appointed advisory groups. Andrews said she finds the Adam Walsh Act most troublesome because it “reaches out and grabs kids who were adjudicated as juveniles. The Adam Walsh Act sweeps in and says we still want these kids on the registry.”

Critics also fear it will cost millions of dollars to follow and would not be worth the money the state might lose for not complying. If the federal Attorney General’s office finds that California has not made a “good faith conduct” to comply with the Adam Walsh Act, the Attorney General can reduce the federal Byrne funds allocated to that jurisdiction for law enforcement resources.

“We think the cost of compliance might greatly outweigh the benefits of losing 10 percent of the Byrne funds,” said Pacheco.

Critics fear the massive costs will include applying this law to a state as populated as California, complying with the federal classification system and DNA collection.

It costs more to enact a federal act than individual state laws because a federal law does not take into consideration a state’s specific needs and resources, said Robert Coombs of the California Coalition Against Sexual Assault, a statewide coalition of rape crisis centers and prevention programs.

It would also be costly because the categories the federal government uses to distinguish between different levels of sex crimes do not match the ones California uses. The federal act assigns sex offenders to a numbered level, while California uses other distinctions, such as “sexually violent predator.” To comply, California would have to either run two concurrent leveling systems or completely revamp its present system, Coombs said.

Another cost would be gathering the DNA samples of individuals affected by the Adam Walsh Act. Adults and juveniles convicted of any felony or sex offense already have their DNA collected, but the cost for testing DNA samples has exceeded expectations. The Los Angeles Police Department needs $9.3 million to clear up a backlog of untested samples. Since the Adam Walsh Act is retroactive, it would require collection and analysis of DNA samples from adults and juveniles convicted before the DNA regulations, which did not start until 2004.

Supporters of the law argue the high cost of putting the act into effect is worth the safety of the community.

“There just is no higher purpose for government than keeping the public safe,” said Will Smith, State Senator George Runner’s spokesperson. The Antelope Valley Republican sponsored Jessica’s Law.

Recidivism rates fail to prove the law effective or counterproductive, and both advocates and critics of the law use the statistics to support their arguments. Data from the Justice Department shows that 5.3 percent of male sex offenders released from prisons in 15 states in 1994 were rearrested for a new sex crime within three years of release. Juvenile justice advocates, on the other hand, look at recidivism rates among teenagers, which show that the rates of sexual re-offense are substantially lower, at 5 to 18 percent, than the rates for other delinquent behavior, which is 8 to 58 percent, according to the National Center on Sexual Behavior of Youth.

The California Sex Offender Management Board will evaluate the law and might recommend to the legislature and governor whether it should be complied with, according to board chair Suzanne Brown-McBride. The decision rests with Attorney General Jerry Brown, Gov. Schwarzenegger and the Legislature. California is home to 90,000 registered adult sex offenders and 2,528 registered juvenile sex offenders.

“The state is reviewing the act and evaluating the potential impact it will have on the state,” said Gareth Lacy, a Brown spokesman. “California has a long history of setting tough laws mandating sex-offender registration.”

Runner will be watching the outcome. If California’s current laws do not conform to the federal act, the state senator plans to introduce a bill.

Ricky is now 19 and trying to bring some normalcy back to his life. But that’s practically impossible. In between monthly meetings with his probation officer, he’s been trying to find a job.

However, employers haven’t been eager to hire a registered sex offender. He wants to get a college degree, yet that, too, is problematic. He’s worried his classmates would find him on the registry and start harassing him. “I have to watch my back all of the time,” he said. “Once people find out, they panic. They don’t know the real story.”

Published: 02/20/2008

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The biggest molester and abuser of children is government itself.

All of the molesters in the US prison system combined could not possibly compete with the millions of military personell who travel the world in search of young, underage prostitutes from Manilla, to Milan, to Bhagdad, to Guam.

The biggest child molester on planet Earth is the US government itself, and they are not ashamed.

posted by Leonard X on 2/20/08 @ 09:12 p.m.

Parents there is a war against OUR children Politicains, will not inform you how to protect your children and young adults from the hate list.

Some experts believe 1 in 20 males in the US are or will be listed. What do you think?

A MUST READ FOR ALL PARENTS:
ETHICAL TREATMENT FOR ALL YOUTH
http://www.ethicaltreatment.org/criminal......
CRIMINALIZATION OF CHILDHOOD SEXUALITY
As previously shown, the language used to label children who behave in a sexual manner typically confuses indecent or socially inappropriate behavior with coercion and violence.4 It is one thing to prohibit such behavior and discipline children for it. It is quite another to describe almost any sexual activity among children, even when it is mutually desired, as

posted by swan2740 on 2/21/08 @ 07:29 a.m.

part 2-

posted by swan2740 on 2/21/08 @ 07:32 a.m.

posted by swan2740 on 2/21/08 @ 07:32 a.m.

Why do people look for quick fixes to complex problems?

This reminds me of the 3 strikes hoopla ... people being sent to prison for life for taking a sandwich and all that.

Look: children do not have the mental development that adults do and there is a difference between sex crimes.

We need legislators with the brains to sort this out. Putting a 'scarlet letter' on a child, having him or her register for life is absurd ... certainly in this case.

As for adults: sex offenders, be they violent predators or simply people who flash someone, get that 'scarlet letter' already and the cost of this soporific for the public is absurd.

Again, take a look at the statistics: since most sex crimes actually happen between family members, <sarcasm font on> why not simply separate all families?<sarcasm font off>

Seriously, would it be so much to expect our legislators to stop pandering to the lowest common denominator and to take a look at what might actually work ... because GPS tracking, banishment, lifetime registration are just not cutting it!

posted by freedom on 2/21/08 @ 06:13 p.m.

Hi my son is the one in this story and I appreciate those who commented here and who have the wit and intellectuality to see the difference between my son who was a boy at sixteen and a violent child rapist killer like that of John Coohey, who tragically killed Jessica Lunsford. Even though two different cases in entirety our lawmakers all over this country are subjecting all into one category a sex offender and not being honest or making kids or parents aware my son could be your child, grandchild or nephew if he or she consents to sex.

The real tragedy for all these teens, like my son, is Ricky is on a defferred judgement/adjudication. So if he completes probation his record will be exsponged he will not be charged yet he will have to register for life still. He will have to obey all laws set forth for all offenders even though he will not have a conviction.

When this first happened I asked many if he had sold drugs to a child in the park do you realise he do his time and be free not made to publicly register or give his address or photo? He do his time and parole/probation and be free....yet for consensual sex he is forever going to be registered under law and forever punished. My son could live to be eighty or ninety if he is so blessed and yet will be labeled this.

So please those who see the ignorance and want change for our son's please help me speak out. Tell people of Ricky's story, email legislators, call them speak out. Demand change after all its your taxes which make these registry's and there will be thousands of more teens on it if California passes the Adam Walsh Act (AWA)
Speaking out can make changes after all we vote lawmakers into office so we can surely demand they fix their mistakes. I am available for contact if anyone like to speak to me or assist me in fighting for change for our teenagers who have consensual sex.

Mary

posted by mom of ricky on 2/23/08 @ 04:28 a.m.

The most blatant flaw in these sex registration laws, although certainly not the only one, is that they sweep within their draconian embrace a huge variety of conduct that does not warrant the label dangerous sexual offender. In fact the sex registration requirement has been given such scope that it has become meaningless as an indicator of who we should really fear. When a law indiscriminately lumps someone like Ricky, who at 16 had consensual sex with a girl he thought was also 16, with paedophiles because it turned out the girl was only 13, it is the lawmakers who are acting irrationally and, yes, dangerously.

posted by Peter Young on 2/24/08 @ 08:20 a.m.

Leonard X

You have no clue what you're talking about. HOW DARE YOU!

"millions of military personell who travel the world in search of young, underage prostitutes from Manilla, to Milan, to Bhagdad, to Guam"

There are less than 3 million people in the US armed forces (ALL OF THEM) in active duty and reserves COMBINED.

In search? Prostitution and Human trafficking are both a HUGE deal in the military and in the VERY FEW cases that occur, the consequenses are extremely harsh! I don't know how old you are but in today's military this just does not fly.

Underage prostitutes in Guam? Never heard of such a thing. I've been to Guam twice a year for the last 7. How about you? Sure there are a few "Massage Parlors" around that are fronts for prostitutes there but 1) They are mostly older asian women (and ZERO UNDERAGE) and 2) The military keeps tabs on those places when a ship is in port because the military is 100% against prostitution. This is not the VIetnam era buddy.

You are a complete moron and should be sued for Libel.

posted by urherenow on 2/24/08 @ 01:09 p.m.

Leonard X simply has no imagination. He doesn't seem to realize that America has been a country for over 200 years, and that we have soldiers stationed in over 50% of the countries on the planet.

Leonard X doesn't seem to realize that the people in the military now are not the same people who were in the military 10 yrs ago, 50 yrs ago, or 100 yrs ago.

We've definitely sent millions of solders out there, over the course of the country.

And there are underage prostitutes -- in every country, and probably every city in the world.

posted by ClintJCL on 2/24/08 @ 03:04 p.m.

There are plenty of people who seek to deceive and yet those who are the victims of deception wind up being the guilty, the convicted. When this happens, we have to wonder just what is wrong with not only the law that punishes those who were unjustly deceived but with those who think these laws will solve our problems.

A chance in attitudes towards human sexuality would also go a long way in preventing asinine twaddle like this happening to people who were deceived in the first place. But that change won't happen because the American public is treated like children when it comes to sexual freedom and expression, with sexuality repressed due to draconian attitudes.

And to Mary, hang in there. You're a good mother for supporting your son in this. Just remember that there are reasonable people out there. Don't let the ignorant minority do this to you. Find more reasonable people and get them on your side.

posted by Bianca on 2/25/08 @ 10:22 a.m.

So, Ricky was 16 and the girl was 13? Isn't there a provision in the laws about a maximum age difference before something like that can be considered statutory rape? In NJ it's four years, I believe. Meaning, as long as the sex was consensual, he could have been as old as 17 and it would be considered "ok" within the law.

People should fight for a similar provision. This way that type of unreasonable punishment wouldn't occur unless it was something extreme (like a 16 y.o. having sex with a 10 y.o., or something similar). Conservative states need to own up to the fact that YES, some kids will have sex. Sometimes, there will be an age difference between them. But does that automatically mean coercion and pedophilia? Hell no. Consensual sex, even when it's the case of naive minors, is not the same as a child molester knowingly manipulate or forces his or her victim into committing sexual acts against their will.

I have quite a few friends that lost their virginity at 12 or 13, and also a few friends that grew up dating older people. While lots of problems could arise from dating outside your age, I don't see it as an area where the law should intervene. What if a high school senior dates a freshman? Is that against the law? A max of 4 years in age difference seems pretty reasonable.

posted by anonywhom on 2/25/08 @ 06:18 p.m.

It's pretty shocking to me that here we are in the 21st century, and we can't create laws that acknowledge the difference between consensual and violent sexual acts between children; that we can't create laws that acknowledge that children aren't finished growing and learning and experimenting until well into their 20s, and that *especially* when children are adolescents, they deserve the most careful consideration of the motives and context of their actions. Adolescents, I've heard from more than one psychologist, are like little crazy people walking around, because their brains just aren't fully formed yet, and without the proper guidance and care and love, they *won't* be, not successfully. They're going to do nutty things; they don't know or understand all the rules adults live by; they have hormones running through their bodies that urge them to do things that they don't have the rational framework or a life context to compare the rightness or wrongness of the action. For a court of law to completely ruin a young man's life before he's barely gotten started with this sort of half-baked ruling is utterly irresponsible and horrible.
I feel deep sympathy for you and your family, Mary, and I hope you know there are people out there who won't judge you in a knee-jerk way. I hope you're able to get a good lawyer to help you set things right.

posted by mjstone323 on 2/25/08 @ 07:09 p.m.

Ok, I admit I started reading through all the other comments and then just skipped to add mine, so I'm not sure how out of the loop it will sound.. but my comment regards this specific case that I just read about and managed to really pisses me off so then, sorry about the long into, but here we go...

My basic assessment is...

Kid, 16, meets this girl, also 16, at a teen club. They hit it off, start dating, and eventually have sex, as 16 year olds are wont to do. Turns out, girl lied about her age, was actually 13, and now the kid is on the sex offender registry for life. As in: Can't get a job, can't go to school, can't live NEAR a school. For. Life.

Here's what I want to know? Why is this kid being criminalized by these draconian sex offender laws? He only did what any 16 year old guy would do in this situation.

"Hey, this chick is my age, and hot, and totally rocks. What's that? She wants to have sexual relations with me? By golly, it's a wonderful life after all!"

I just don't see what the huge deal is. Don't get me wrong here, I'm not saying teenage guys need to be stickin' it in little girls. Not at all. But this was in no way the guy's fault. Look at the facts.

- HE was honest with her
- SHE lied about her age in order to use him for her own sexual purposes

Which one sounds more like a predator to you?

God DAMN this kinda shaz pisses me off!

He NEVER tried to lie about it and plead his case to the court honestly

He was under a false pretense due to her LIES, and maybe if that's what little girls do these days they shouldn't be ALLOWED into the TEENAGE CLUBS at all !

Also, I might be missing it there, but I can't find WHO turned him in to the police.. if it was in fact the 13 yr old then she INTENTIONALLY when out to do this and after getting her fun decided to turn him in.. in that case she should be the one ostracized for her actions... but to further say, if it was her parents that 'somehow' found out (as they are usually doing in cases like this.. and always AFTER THE FACT I might add) then the REAL QUESTION is not, was it this boys fault.. cause it ISN'T, but more importantly then being the girls fault is where the hell were her PARENTS when lil Amanda was out CLUBBIN at a TEENAGE CLUB and hooking up with guys that she was LYING about her age to???

Looks to me that lil Amanda there should be the one taking responsibility, and taking it in a STATE HOME, because she needs to be TAKEN from her "parents" for their NEGLIGENCE

posted by AmadeusXXII on 2/25/08 @ 10:53 p.m.

There are two kinds of sex offenders, the first type are the ones like Ricky; who have consensual sex, and the other party lies about either their age or consenting; and the one who girls lie about having sex with. The other type is the dangerous one: rapists, pedophiles, (who incidentally, have usually been repeatedly raped by a trusting family friend). Now to me, if my next door neighbor had consenting sex with a young girl, who lied about her age, I still do not consider him a sex offender who needs to be punished for a lifetime. Now, I won't get started on another pet peeve of mine, girls LYING either about their age, or consenting just to get attention! But kids like Ricky, should not be punished this harshly. This is an outrage and more people should write their local, state, and federal government officials to not put teenagers on this list who are guilty of being deceived by a female or her overwrought parents. Now as for Leonard X: what nightmare world are you living in??? To say that all the American Military look for "young, underage prostitutes" is just plain wrong and you should be sent to Iraq to see this. Just because of a few ignorant idiots do something stupid and wrong, the entire military should not be labeled this way. Is is like saying just because someone is black means they are lazy and dopeheads or someone who is white is racists. You cannot justify saying something because of a few bad apples. I have met a lot more good people in the military than bad, a heck of a lot more.

Back to this subject, fact is teenagers are going to have sex, but PARENTS need to teach morality, compassion and HONOR!!! not the schools, though it would help. Ultimately the responsibility of a child's actions is the PARENT. Kudos to Ricky's mom, hang in there and keep the faith. Your son is only guilty of having sex with a girl who lied about her age. He is not a monster who should be punished!!

posted by cindy40740 on 2/26/08 @ 11:41 a.m.

Take notes parents. Print this article and don't leave it to public schools.

A 16 year old having sex with a 13 year old child is offensive, uncivil, and against the law.

Encourage your kids to wait until they are 18 for now. Sure it's unromantic but have them promise to look at a drivers license because if the girl somehow skipped grades, the court won't buy it.

While it is acceptable for unnamed Islamic profits to have their way children, it's not acceptable in USA.

Fathers, never leave your wife. Never ever let some other adult raise your kids. Love that woman as best you can and re-evaluate it (if necessary) only when your last kid turns 18. Chances are if you are still together, you knew what you were doing and picked a darn good woman in the 1st place, and now your children have a role model for commitment.

posted by mobushin04 on 2/26/08 @ 04:06 p.m.

Yet another reason to keep it in your pants. Keeps you out of a world of crap.

posted by StinkBait on 2/26/08 @ 04:54 p.m.

mobushin04,

Sir or Madam I ask What is this crap that you are spewing out to the open public.

"While it is acceptable for unnamed Islamic profits to have their way children, it's not acceptable in USA."

I am a Muslim and I dear Allah tell you that there has never been a Islamic prophet to have there way with children. I can only say about Church Fathers who have had there way with Children,but Sir that is not the point of the topic. I support Ricky because he has been labeled a sex offender when he had sex with a person only 3 years younger then him. I personally had sex when I was 15 I had sex with a 14 year old I was labeled a sex offender so why was Ricky?

I will and have called my State Governor about having this law revoked.

posted by Zblueblur0 on 2/27/08 @ 05:36 p.m.

I cant understand how someone can be labeled as an "sex offender" when clearly both agreed having sex.

Ricky is NOT a bad person and did nothing wrong.

And those neighbors and strangers should be ashamed of themselves... only God can judge us!

posted by anonymous1 on 2/27/08 @ 07:06 p.m.

Question: Is Ricky Really a Sex Offender?

NO
NO
NO
NO
NO
NO
NO

posted by anonymous1 on 2/27/08 @ 07:09 p.m.

Thank you all for your support and encouragement. I have a meeting with Gus Blackwell and John Auffet on May 1st in Oklahoma City..please email me at a_political_prisoner@yahoo.com with any comments you like me to take to these politicians as it could help them to see this is unfair and we must pass Romeo and Juliet laws here for our sons. Also, building Ricky a site here: http://freericky.tripod.com

Thans your words of encouragement mean more then a mom can say

posted by mom of ricky on 3/12/08 @ 03:05 p.m.

Oh forgot please take hanna story and send to your friends, legislators, news stations, radio stations and post on all message boards you visit...its important we keep Ricky's story in the spotlight so it will draw attention. Also I did a interview on live radio last Friday March 7, with Dori Monson show on 710 KIRO. Site is here: http://www.mynorthwest.com you can listen to a MP3 format or email me and will send directly to you. Also, Rickys story is here: http://www.ethicaltreatment.org/mary.htm... Tonight I will have other articles on Rickys site of interview he did last year with me with Dan gunderson, MPR Radio on "unattended Consequences"

Also, like to thank Hanna for her wonderful article and I hope this story makes Californians realize the Adam Walsh Act will ruin many lives especially our teens. Age of consent in this state is eighteen and if passed many teens will be facing Ricky's future.

posted by mom of ricky on 3/12/08 @ 03:15 p.m.

Hi hope you all will see this but Ricky now has a petition online. Please sign and share with everyone you know and every message baord you visit...I'm determined to save my son's life..http://www.rickyslife.com email a_political_prisoner@yahoo.com Thank you everyone

posted by mom of ricky on 3/22/08 @ 06:21 p.m.

This is why i'm moving to a small island in the middle of nowhere. Cause the USA is becoming completely skrewed up.

A person in the US can't even think for themselves anymore w/o the government making them a criminal. This is just another insanity brought to you by the fundamentalist and non-free-thinkers

posted by DeadEnded on 3/22/08 @ 10:34 p.m.

I am so angry at what this country is doing to its young people. My new favorite quote:

You can't legislate morality; We legislate little else. -- Robert Bork

These kids are not sex offenders. They are normal teenagers that at every waking moment are watching it on TV, listening to music that is full of sexual content, playing video games with it and we wonder why they wonder?

These moronic legislators that have nothing else to build their political careers on constantly come up with these ridiculous bills and feed the public their fearmonger rhetoric with the medias help are destroying this country. The Witch Hunts of Salem were 319 years ago. 3 Hundred years and we have learned nothing! The people of this country had better wake up and pay attention. Our children are the prey of these ever more draconian laws. 3 strikes, Megans Law, Jessicas Law are disasters. They suck our state budgets dry and keep no one safer. We even have a new one in California they are trying to slick people with. Marsys law. Our children are in danger, but it's not from Sex Offenders its from do gooder legislators that harm far more young people than they will ever help. Adam Walsh is destroying young people. Victims rights groups should not be allowed to legislate emotional vindictive legislation. They are being used by legislators and law enforcement unions and they don't even realize it. This just continues to create ever more jobs for law enforcement. Give them a little more time and 50% of the people will be in prison and the other 50% will be guarding them. I am disgusted with the direction this country is going. Our children are the sacrificial lambs. SPEAK UP PEOPLE BEFORE YOUR CHILD IS THEIR NEXT TARGET. HANG IN THEIR RICKY AND RICKY'S FOLKS. AMERICA IS BEGINNING TO LISTEN.

posted by Morris1 on 3/24/08 @ 10:32 p.m.

I think it is ridiculous to think that I, a 16 year old male in California, cant make love to my girlfriend without being put in the same sentence as some crazy guy who decides to kidnap a child and rape her to death in the basement of his parents house. This is ridiculous. Something needs to be done.

posted by sethylawrence on 4/01/08 @ 05:39 p.m.

For the young man zehlawrence please be aware the age of consent in California is eighteen. Be aware this can happen ot any teen so be careful. Also share our pettition with freinds and families we must get signatures cause I am gonna fight to change laws for all our sons across this country. The Adam Walsh Act discussed in this article has a romeo and Juliet clause but many politicians will not pass it or just flat have no idea it exists. http://www.rickyslife.com

posted by mom of ricky on 4/02/08 @ 03:44 p.m.

In one month I got to meet legislators please pass are petition around Thank you

http://www.rickyslife.com

posted by mom of ricky on 4/05/08 @ 07:46 a.m.

Enough is enough, No more grandstanding politicains - We want laws that protect children not label them.
REFORM SEX OFFENDER LAWS NOW!
A Call to Protect American Society, our Children and our Liberties

http://www.reformsexoffenderlaws.org/sta...

posted by swan2740 on 4/07/08 @ 06:46 a.m.

Let me tell you where Ricky may be in 20 years if nobody stops the witch hunt.

My boyfriend, 20 years ago (now 38) grabbed his buddie's sisters butt. NO sex, No violence, Over her clothes, No nudity. over this he was made to register in his state for lewd conduct.

He moved to California for a job a few years back and even though his offense may not even be a registrable offense in CA, went and registered just to be safe.
He then moved to another city a few miles away, went to register there, had to come back a few times, lady is on vacation, come back type thing. He did and registered. No one told him he had to tell the other city that he was leaving.

6 months later they come to his door and arrest him for failure to register. there ends up being a week gap in registration and he gets 2 years in prison.
Mind you, he has NEVER committed a violent crime of any kind much less got a traffic ticket other than the butt grabbing thing 20 years ago.
He is made to rent a home from prison and he does, when he gets out, the landlord rented his house to others and will not return the deposit he sent.
He is now on parole, goes to parole and tells them he does not have an address because he has no where to go and he can not go home because it is another state and against parole. The parole officer tells him to figure it out. He calls parole a month later to check in like he should and is told that a warrant is issued for failure to be at the address he was released to... the address he was forced to get in prison and he told them the landlord had rented it to others.

He is in jail again, now facing 3 years for non-registration. I called parole and asked why he is now considered a "threat to the public" and a "violent sex predator" when 20 years ago originally he was minimal risk. I was told... ALL sex offenders are a threat and should not be free. Parole does not even have his original paperwork from the original crime, its too old, nor do they care.

I have been emailing everyone trying to find out what to do, so far no luck.

Anyway, Ricky better cross his t's and dot every i or else he may end up serving years in prison years later because the laws are retroactive and after a few years, the original paperwork that stated "minimal risk" will be history.

In CA a 18 YO having a 15YO girlfriend is looked at as the same piece of garbage as the 40 YO who rapes and murders a 5 YO.

Where is Justice? This is not what we voted for. The only child hurt here is my own who is devastated believing that he just left us because I have no way to explain where he is to the boy.

and, I will most likely come under fire for being a family and allowing this "crazed maniac of a sex predator" to be around us.

posted by May on 4/17/08 @ 08:20 p.m.

cindy40740 says, "there are two kinds of sex offenders, the first type are the ones like Ricky; who have consensual sex, and the other party lies about either their age or consenting; and the one who girls lie about having sex with. The other type is the dangerous one: rapists, pedophiles."

I have to disagree with that, There are many types of offenders. Mary, Ricky's mother is a very dear personal friend of mine and she knows what I'm saying is true.

One thing we lack in this country is true education based on FACT.

If you go to my site, there is an article entitled INCEST - A FAMILY TRAGEDY, Click on "read more" then click on the "link" it will take you to a page with a short introductory video to a documentary that won 12 prestigious awards.
Under that there is "BlogTalkRadio." For a real education on these issues.
My site is cfcoklahoma.com

posted by Linda on 6/06/08 @ 07:11 a.m.

Ah great, what do we have here? Reform sex offender laws ... sign here ... email there ... Just a bunch of sex offender activists ready to exploit this young man's situation for their own propaganda purposes.

posted by trentrz on 6/07/08 @ 02:13 a.m.

Most people are very unaware that more than 90% of all sex crimes against children are committed in the home and incest related. 80% of incest crimes go unreported. Bill OReilly will not tell you that.
The entertainment news media promotes bogus pictures concerning “stranger danger,” “pedophilia” and “predator”. They sensationalize for “RATINGS”! as well as self aggrandizement.
5% or less of all sex crimes are of the “predator/stranger danger”. And Law enforcement does a great job of catching those individuals.
Politicians in this environment are quick to jump on this bandwagon for votes. They totally ignore all the facts and pass laws that actually endanger children.
Incest is NOT pedophilia. These is a vast difference. You won’t hear that on the news or from politicians either.
Recidivist rates for incest related offenses are between 1 & 2 percent and that is without treatment. Once caught the abusers wake up. Treatment reduces the recidivist rate for that 1 to 2 percent by 50%. Treatment works.
The stranger/pedophile recidivist rate (70%), is what the news media and politicians apply to everyone. Including teens and children as young as 10 years old are put on the public registries and labeled with the same broad brush.
There are 60 MILLION individuals in this country who have been molested in an incest related abuse. With this type being 80% NOT reported. That leaves 1-1/2 MILLION victims with 30 MILLION, 50% will go on to abuse a family member.
We all need to understand the facts if we are going to have an impact on Child sexual abuse.
This is a community problem. The fear factor with the treatment center is bogus. Residency restrictions and public registration protects no one and in fact endangers children.
If you go to my site, please look at the top article “Incest - A Family Tragedy” click on “Read More” and the link to Shazzam films and PLEASE listen to the blogtalkradio.
www.cfcoklahoma.com

There is a huge difference

posted by Linda on 6/13/08 @ 09:41 a.m.

Mary,
I would like to contact you (I don't know how) - I have a son in a similar situation that has been dealing with a sex offender label for 16 years (nothing he has even done sexually wrong in that time but still continually harrased by local police) - this has been destroying him and us - I emailed a professor a year ago who knows the labeling of teens in this type of situation in wrong and has tried to take it to the legislature -- society is so focused on all the perverts they cannot see beyond that --I would love to work with others that have the intelligence to see the situation for what it is. I am like you - stay awake at night and wish that people did really take the time to understand this is not a crime.

posted by maddy on 6/23/08 @ 11:31 p.m.

Maddie please write me at my site. my email is rickysmom@rickyslife.com ...I do believe all offender laws need reformed as the laws currently are causing more harm then good and experts agree like Jill Levenson, Fred Berlin and many others.

posted by mom of ricky on 6/27/08 @ 09:19 p.m.
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